Deciding whether to do a first look on your wedding day? Here’s what to consider.
There’s a lot of debate out there about doing a first look on your wedding day—and I’m here to tell you that the right answer? It’s whatever feels best to you. While some photographers have strong opinions, I’m all about helping you craft a wedding experience that’s authentic, meaningful, and aligned with your vision. Whether you’re leaning into tradition or thinking of a more intimate start, there are beautiful reasons to consider both options.
The Case for Skipping the First Look
There’s something timeless about the moment you lock eyes down the aisle for the first time. It’s the only time you’ll experience that specific, electric rush—and it’s a moment you’ll never forget.
That long walk toward your partner? It’s symbolic. It marks the final moments of your separate lives before stepping into forever—together. Even after all this time shooting weddings, I’m still a sucker for that aisle moment. And if I’m catching butterflies just being there…imagine how YOU’LL feel.
Plus, those emotions? They look incredible in photos. The happy tears. The shaking hands. The sparkle in your eyes when you finally see your person at the other end. It’s romantic. It’s real. It’s unforgettable.
But…let’s be real. It can also feel like a lot.
The Case for Doing a First Look
Here’s where a first look on your wedding day really shines: it takes the pressure OFF.
Instead of waiting for that big aisle moment, you get a private space to see each other, breathe together, and soak in the emotions—just the two of you (and me, but I promise I blend into the background like a photography ninja).
Doing a first look can help calm nerves and create a more relaxed vibe going into the ceremony. It’s intimate, intentional, and totally yours. Plus, your partner might be more emotionally open when it’s just you two, rather than standing in front of a hundred pairs of eyes.
First Look = More Flexibility + More Photos
Let’s talk logistics (because yes, they matter).
When you do a first look, you unlock a whole new timeline. We can knock out so many portraits before the ceremony—couples portraits, bridal party photos, and even family photos (depending on your people…some of whom may be mysteriously missing after cocktail hour starts).
This means you get to your reception faster, spend more time with guests, and stress way less.
The One Con? Lighting.
If your first look happens early in the day, we might be working with stronger midday light. But that’s not a dealbreaker—we’ll find good shade, scout great locations, and make it work. That’s what I’m here for.
TL;DR – Do What Feels Right
At the end of the day, the choice is yours. Whether you want to keep it classic and wait for the aisle, or have a quiet moment alone before the whirlwind begins, you can’t go wrong.
Just know I’ll be there either way—capturing every emotional, silly, breathtaking, and joy-filled second.
Still deciding on a first look?
If you need more convincing, Brides has a phenomenal article on doing a first look.
However for a more personal touch, whether you go the traditional route or sneak in a quiet moment before the ceremony, I’m here to help you plan a day that feels like you. Let’s chat about your timeline, your vision, and how we can make space for those once-in-a-lifetime moments—camera-ready and stress-free. 💛
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